Changing the nest

I am very excited today to have heard from Pat at smartpassiveincome.com that I won a book in a posting contest and he was also going to put a link to this blog on todays post. I want to thank Pat and anyone that drops by from his site, thank you for checking out my site and I hope some of you will come back and visit !! I am new and learning but plan to work hard  to become a better blogger and really want to interact with other people here !!

One of the biggest challenges I have found in renesting is the fact we had to find a way to add three people into a home that has been set up for three people and that takes some creativity and a whole lot of sacrifice  to go from three to six in a 1600 square foot home !!

My husband had his stain glass studio in a bedroom and I had my office in the front living room, and our twenty year old getting ready to fly the coop son had one room as well. We finally had a guest room, a dream that with four kids was never possible. Our daughter and her two kids moved in and we tried putting a two year old boy in with  his nine year old sister and the resulting drama was worth the loss of the stain glass studio to give her a room of  her own !! I had forgotten how dramatic nine year old girls are, but is another post !!

So, now, we had to pack up a pretty full work studio and a pretty full office as we had been enjoying the big empty  house to ourselves. After emptying the house over several weeks, out our daughter later followed my husband into our storage barn and looked around  , and  since she and I are rivited to the tv when Hoarders is on, asked her Dad, gee, this is pretty full, are you guys hoarders ?? He looked at her and said, no, it was empty until we had to empty three rooms for you !! She thought it was pretty  funny but I am not so sure he did !!

I miss having his big work room, I had all my bead and jewelry and other crafts on a shelf in there . I miss him having all his glass and projects out and so much fun and  creative stuff in there.  I miss  having a big office in the front of the house. It was nice to have another room to go down to and hang out throughout the day.  Sacrifice is really what it was all about to bring our daughter and kids into the house. Was it worth it, yes, hands down, would not change a thing if we could.

Our entire life is housed on our bedroom now.  Our computer, tv with dvr, lol, and lots and lots of books. I try to hide in here when I can, but somehow the two year old finds me , he is in here crawling under all the furniture as I type !!  It is a challenge and does take enormous patience and a lot of storage space to add your grown kids and thier kids back into the house. No doubt about it.

One major issue for me was the fact that if I had to listen to Dora and  Spongebob and so one much longer I would need some therapy, lol !! I spent many early years with cartoons and thought that was over, but for now, it is back in my life !! My husband had moved our pc into the small family room next to our bedroom  I was left with no quiet time on the computer at all , the cartoons are on all day. My solution was to put a dvr and small tv in our room and move the pc in here where I can still hear the tv in the next room but it is muted and not so bad and our little 13 inch allows me to record and watch things I love when I am not on the computer , reading,  or doing housework.

Our twenty year old just moved out and his sister wants his room bad so she can  move in there and make her current bedroom , which is the front living area into thier own living area, and I can’t wait because the cartoons will be in there not our family room !! The problem is , the twenty  year old is taking his sweet time to get all this stuff out and holding all of  us hostage by keeping  her in her current situation. I think his Dad and I might load up our old pick up and drop by his place this weekend !!

So, we will be playing musical rooms one more time and then should be settled in for a while. 

We still have a lot of work to do though. We need to paint both rooms. We want to make our grandaughters room pretty and our grandsons room is actually the perfect color but needs a lot of touch ups where shelves came down and we really do need to remove the pink carpet that is left over in that room from the previous owner, but so far, he has not really cared !! I wanted to put the grandaughter in the room that had pink carpet and the big closet but her mom wanted her in the bigger room. It is hard, I have had some challenges in letting her do it her way and refrain from saying  ” its my house and I want to do it like this .  “  Grown kids are a little more touchy then when they were your kids, back then you just told them and they did it, like it or not, but grown kids, it is a very differant thing. She wants to set up her side of the house her way and I am working hard on letting her and wow, sometimes it is very hard, but she does not know it. I am doing pretty good !!

So, there are so many challenges to moving kids or parents or anyone into a home you have set up for yourself. It takes a lot of patience, and creativity and learning to shut up and let them do it  thier way in the spaces you made for them !!

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